Date night with yourself
When even Tinder is encouraging people to stay home and not go on dates, you know we are in uncharted territory. However, with the current Covid-19 pandemic, the safest sex partner anyone can have right now certainly is themselves. Since lockdowns have gone into place, the sale of sex toys has skyrocketed and everyone from Vogue to CNN and the MIT Technology Review is reporting about how quarantining is affecting our sex lives.
The truth is, masturbation is good for you. Besides helping you explore and get to know your body, it also releases endorphins that help you relax and de-stress. With all of this in mind, we wanted to put together a fail-proof two-step guide for planning a perfect, and pleasurable, date night with yourself.
Step one: Prepare
For tips to improve your pleasure experience, platforms like O.School and OMGYes offer sex education material that is judgment-free and backed by science. Of course, manual stimulation (using your hands) is a fabulous option to get to know what feels good, but there is also a wide variety of sex toys out there to help you along on your journey into self-love and exploration.
Historically, sex toys have been designed by men to look like what they see as the most important part of sex, their penis. Today we know that many women do not orgasm from intercourse alone, so when it comes to selecting the right sex toy for yourself we asked Polly Rodriguez, CEO and Co-Founder of the sex toy company Unbound for some tips. Polly says:
“The most important thing to think about is where you feel the most stimulation, externally (i.e, the clitoris) or internally. Most vibrators are designed for either clitoral stimulation or internal stimulation. Studies show that 70% of womxn need clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm, so I usually recommend an entry-level vibrator external vibrator like a bullet or wand.”
There is a whole world out there of products specifically designed with female pleasure in mind. For instance, stimulating gels use ingredients like peppermint oil to increase blood flow to your clitoris for an extra intense experience. We also love this water-based lube from Coco de Mer that is so beautiful you will want to give it a permanent place on your nightstand.
Step two: Enjoy
Really, that’s it. Light some candles because it is time for your date. Our friends at The Pleasure Project have even made a Spotify playlist to set the mood for a sexy night in. According to Anne Philpott, Founder of The Pleasure Project:
“Masturbation is anything you want it to be, when you play with yourself you can let your imagination run free. It’s a date with yourself. It’s self-love. You get to know yourself better. You get to know what turns you on and what your body likes. You relax. You can be creative. It’s ‘location-neutral’ [ within consensual boundaries of course]. You can dress up or down. It can be quick or slow. It keeps your system oiled and ready to go. Its also good for physical fitness, oxytocin release, mental health and well being…Best of all its the safest sex EVER.”
So there you have it, our fool-proof guide to self-love. When it comes to masturbation, the only limit is your own imagination, and perhaps also the battery life on your toy of choice.
/ Gerda Larsson, Co-founder and Managing Director of The Case for Her
- The Pleasure Project: Putting the sexy into safe sex
- Unbound: US-based innovative sex toy company
- O.School: Medically-accurate sex education material for adults
- OMGYes: Research-based instructional videos about female pleasure
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